In Judaism, punishment is not a form of divine retribution; that is, God does not punish because we have sinned, but rather punishment is a way to atone for and correct the spiritual and/or material damage caused.
In turn, applying punishment only makes sense when one knows what is expected of them. That is why the Torah details prohibitions, warnings, and the punishments associated with them. From punishment, one can learn the gravity of the transgression.
The same applies to the parent-child relationship. A child's good behavior isn't dictated by the punishments they receive, but by their desire to meet their parents' expectations. Therefore, parents must be clear with their children about what they expect of them and not assume that a child should behave well. It's necessary to define what good behavior means. Punishment only indicates the importance of what the parents want from the child.
Furthermore, it is essential to emphasize that what the child did was not right, but that the child is not bad or incapable, etc., and therefore should correct the damage caused with a positive action, such as apologizing, cleaning up the mess, tidying up, etc.
Something is poorly worded in the last paragraph. The child is NOT bad or incapable.
Fixed! Thank you very much!