There are two verses in the Torah regarding respect and fear for one's father and mother: 1) "Honor your father and your mother, so that your days may be long" (Exodus 20:12). 2) "Each of you shall revere your mother and father" (Leviticus 19:3).
The Talmud (Kiddushin 30b) explains that the Torah equates father and mother in both the respect and awe a child should have for them. However, the verse places honoring the father above honoring the mother because, by nature, a child honors his mother more than his father, and at the same time, the verse places fearing the mother above fearing the father because, by nature, a child fears his father more than his mother.
How do you earn the respect and fear of your children?
Respect, by respecting your children. That is, taking them into account, listening to them, keeping the promises you make to them, and keeping your word; no means no and yes means yes.
Fear, demonstrating integrity. That is, warning that after a bad action there will be a punishment and, if the child does the bad action, applying the punishment according to the transgression, and, as we already explained on another occasion, making it clear that the objective of the punishment is the correction of the harm generated by the transgression and not pain or revenge for not having obeyed.